“I am me and I am okay”

Posted: January 17, 2007 in All, Blogroll, child abuse, Family, Life, Motivation & Inspiration, poetry

We all have bouts of depression and despair in our lives.  We  have low self esteem and times when we just feel like it will take a miracle to go any further.  When I was in high school was when I had my first serious bout of depression and despair.  As I started to venture away from my abuser’s, and got a glimpse into “normal”, (before then, I just didn’t know any different), I became depressed.  My high school English teacher, who was a life saver for me gave the  book with the poem “Self Esteem” by Virginia Satir.  She gave me that book 20 years ago or so, and I still turn to it on occassion for reassurance.  Below is a copy of it…wonderfully true for us all!


In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me
Everything that comes out of me is authentically me
Because I alone chose it – I own everything about me
My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
Whether they be to others or to myself – I own my fanatasies,
My dreams, my hopes, my fears – I own all my triumphs and
Successes, all my failures and mistakes Because I own all of
Me, I can become intimately acquainted with me – by so doing
I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts – I know
There are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other
Aspects that I do not know – but as long as I am
Friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously
And hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles
And for ways to find out more about me – However I
Look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically
Me – If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought
And felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is
Unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
Which I discarded – I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be
Productive to make sense and order out of the world of
People and things outside of me – I own me, and
therefore I can engineer me – I am me and



© Virginia Satir, 1975.

Found in Virginia Satir, Self Esteem, Celestial Arts: California, 1975.


  1. Leticia says:


  2. neicey says:

    Loving Virginia Satir!!!
    Thanks…these are just
    falling on my lap..just
    when I need them
    most…funny how
    things happen that way

  3. Lisa says:

    I was given a poster of ‘I am me, I am okay’ as a teenager by my mother. It was inspirational at a young age. I have just googled and rediscovered it again to my delight. It has come to me again at an amazing time in my life as these things do. I am planning on having ‘I am me, I am okay’ tattoed onto my left wrist with some nice artwork around it so that I am constantly reminded of the phrase. Does anybody know if I can get a poster of this somewhere? I’d love to have it on my wall again.Please inspire other young women as I was.

  4. Manymeez says:

    thanks for the comment Lisa. And agree 100% with what you said. This poem saved me as well…

    Don’t know about the website, but I did find this if you wanna check it out!


  5. candace says:

    i read this aint planned for parenthood,
    this was very nice.

  6. Misty says:

    I bought the poster as a teen. I lost it in a move and came into possession of another copy through volunteering with teens and it now hangs in my teens bedroom. It has always been in my heart. I am glad that it is still available for purchase as a book and a poster.

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