“I am me and I am okay”

Posted: January 17, 2007 in All, Blogroll, child abuse, Family, Life, Motivation & Inspiration, poetry

We all have bouts of depression and despair in our lives.  We  have low self esteem and times when we just feel like it will take a miracle to go any further.  When I was in high school was when I had my first serious bout of depression and despair.  As I started to venture away from my abuser’s, and got a glimpse into “normal”, (before then, I just didn’t know any different), I became depressed.  My high school English teacher, who was a life saver for me gave the  book with the poem “Self Esteem” by Virginia Satir.  She gave me that book 20 years ago or so, and I still turn to it on occassion for reassurance.  Below is a copy of it…wonderfully true for us all!


In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me
Everything that comes out of me is authentically me
Because I alone chose it – I own everything about me
My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
Whether they be to others or to myself – I own my fanatasies,
My dreams, my hopes, my fears – I own all my triumphs and
Successes, all my failures and mistakes Because I own all of
Me, I can become intimately acquainted with me – by so doing
I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts – I know
There are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other
Aspects that I do not know – but as long as I am
Friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously
And hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles
And for ways to find out more about me – However I
Look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically
Me – If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought
And felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is
Unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
Which I discarded – I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be
Productive to make sense and order out of the world of
People and things outside of me – I own me, and
therefore I can engineer me – I am me and



© Virginia Satir, 1975.

Found in Virginia Satir, Self Esteem, Celestial Arts: California, 1975.


  1. Leticia says:


  2. neicey says:

    Loving Virginia Satir!!!
    Thanks…these are just
    falling on my lap..just
    when I need them
    most…funny how
    things happen that way

  3. Lisa says:

    I was given a poster of ‘I am me, I am okay’ as a teenager by my mother. It was inspirational at a young age. I have just googled and rediscovered it again to my delight. It has come to me again at an amazing time in my life as these things do. I am planning on having ‘I am me, I am okay’ tattoed onto my left wrist with some nice artwork around it so that I am constantly reminded of the phrase. Does anybody know if I can get a poster of this somewhere? I’d love to have it on my wall again.Please inspire other young women as I was.

  4. Manymeez says:

    thanks for the comment Lisa. And agree 100% with what you said. This poem saved me as well…

    Don’t know about the website, but I did find this if you wanna check it out!


  5. candace says:

    i read this aint planned for parenthood,
    this was very nice.

  6. Misty says:

    I bought the poster as a teen. I lost it in a move and came into possession of another copy through volunteering with teens and it now hangs in my teens bedroom. It has always been in my heart. I am glad that it is still available for purchase as a book and a poster.

  7. ELL says:

    I was surprised to see this poster in Walmart around 1990 in Page Arizona.
    In 1986 in reading class we did a poem contest for the best poem writing.
    Mrs. Wynn was our teacher at the time and one of the best poem that was written went
    to Mitchell and this was the poem, “I AM ME.”
    I noticed that he did got some helped from Mrs. Wynn for correction.
    Michelle and I graduated in 1988 from high school from Page High School.
    I used to write and collect poems since I was in 6th grade, so of course this was one
    of my favorite.

    One day I was notice, Poem Wanted, in the magazine so I decided to enter this poem.
    I didn’t thought of anything at the time about my former classmate or copyright.
    To my surprise this poem was made into a poster and it was being sold in Walmart.

    I understand who ever claimed the poem probably copyright it and own it under their name.

    So just to let people know what was of this poem was not written by this person.

  8. David says:

    Over 27 years ago, I was an active alcoholic, drug addict and male prostitute.
    Having just gotten sober, I was given a poster of Virginia Satir’s declaration of self esteem.
    I hung it on the wall of my bleak and barren apartment and began every day by reading it aloud. I started college at the local junior college, through a program of Vocational Rehabilitation. I eventually earned a BS at a State University, graduating summer cum laude.
    I’m currently the president of my own company. I still attend AA meetings and have for over 27 years. I have a wonderful life, with healthy and productive children. I have a beautiful home and a Wonderful Wife. I have many long time friends and professional associates. I have addressed a room full of NASA scientists who were looking to me for guidance on a particular aspect of my science.

    If they only knew? They wouldn’t Believe It!

    If my former CEO’s, VP’s and bosses would have known? They wouldn’t have believed it!

    I Am the luckiest Guy in the World! I Am Still Me, I Still Love Me, and I Am Still OK.

    Thanks to Howard (be thy name), a couple of sponsors, the State run program which paid every penny of my college tuition, and thousands of people in AA meetings across the world, I escaped the clutches of depression, suicide and addiction.

    You Can Do It Too! Because You Are You and You Are OK.

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