“The Secret” without balance equals failure

Posted: March 24, 2007 in All, Blogroll, Controversy, Life, Motivation & Inspiration, philosophy

The Secret has become a phenomenon.  I have both read the book and watched the dvd.  I have found them to be very inspirational.  For those of us who have a hard time with positive thinking, they are a good reminder of how much better you feel when you stay in the positive. If for nothing else, I think The Secret should be on everyone’s must see and/or read list.  With that said, I think there are some fatal flaws with their theory.  The Secret teaches that the entire universe is guided by the law of attraction.   If you ask for it, believe and live it, you will have it, no matter what.  I find it hard to grasp that a 7 year old boy, sitting in his room, in his low income housing, with a single mom who doesn’t work getting a new bicycle because he applied the principle’s of this book. Or that I can sit around all day eating ho ho’s and drinking yoo hoo’s(as enjoyable as that sounds), I can be as thin as I want because I applied the principle’s of this book.  I agree 100%  that this book is on to something.  To most, it’s no big secret.  We all understand the principle behind it, we all just don’t always practice it.  Where the major flaw is, the laws of attraction cannot be successful without balance.  Everything in this world needs balance if it is to work successfully.  I think this book sets a lot of people up for failure, if they don’t understand balance.  The little boy may not get a bicycle.  But if he practices the principle’s in this book, and maintains balance in his life…he can make a different life for himself.  And someday get all the bikes he wants, or whatever the equivalent of the day is.  If I want to be thin, I must have balance. Not only do I need to think positively, but I must eat healthy and move my body regularly.  Look at everything and everyone in the world that is successful.  You will find balance in all successes.  If you buy a brand new car, you can’t just ask, think and receive that it will always work.  You  have to take care of it, and give it what it needs to work properly.  And of course if you want the money to buy that new car,  you can’t just sit around all day, with no job and expect you will get a new sports car just because you’ve applied the princple’s of this book.

All things and all people in the universe are connected.  All things are a see saw of balance.  Trees grow and thrive because they have a balance of what they need.  Celebrities rise to superstars because people admire and support them.  God is, because people believe and have faith.  But on the other side of the coin, balance can work in negative ways as well.   Trees can die because a company decides to dump toxic waste.  A celebrity can fall, because they don’t have positive balance in their own lives.  Or wars result because people’s beliefs and faiths in God are different. 

Although it can be misleading, I think The Secret and the laws of attraction are wonderful and can be quite empowering.  But you need to be mindful of keeping positive balance in your life.  It is my opinion that having a positive balance in your life is what leads to success. Balance is the heartbeat of the universe, and the laws of attraction cannot be applied without it.  

  1. slivermoon22 says:


    wish i had more to offer but i am busy manifesting

  2. Manymeez says:

    thanks! busy trying to reveal what? Or are you busy making a list of cargo or passengers? Either way, I’m intrigued!

  3. SurfaceEarth says:

    Interesting take on the The Secret. I watched the movie and read the book. And you are right – it echoes principles found in many other sources, perhaps old knowledge we are born with. I have yet to see this take on the Law of Attraction, regarding the balance. Is the Law of Attraction tipping one side of the scales, in your view?

  4. Manymeez says:

    Not exactly. If the law of attraction tips the scales one way or another, then there is no balance. You can’t ask without giving…you can’t give without asking. You cannot, in my opinion, make the principle’s in the book work in your favor if you do not have balance in your life. Everything and everyone in the universe are linked, and balance eachother out. That’s true in yourself, in your relationships, in nature, and even in man made things. In the laws of attraction the balance is if you think positively, believing in the law of attraction, you will feel empowered to do something about it. If the scale tips to you just asking, believing, and receiving without doing anything to help yourself, there is no weight on the other side to help you realize your dream. You wouldn’t just plant a tree, and ask, visualize, and accept that it is going to grow and survive. You would plant the tree, with faith, and believe it will thrive, and you would make sure it has what it needs to survive. You would plant it in the right place, give it support, water, feed and check for disease and insects. Balance equals give and take, and asking, believing, receiving, while preparing. Am I making any sense, or am I rambling? I’m having a hard time explaining what I’m thinking. Am I making any more sense?

  5. jorge nunez says:

    i think you´re confusing the book´s message with its true intentions. the book basically tells you to trust the law of attraction with all your heart, soul, and mind, and your desires will show up when least expected. i may say i trust the ¨secret¨ intellectually but my heart and soul don´t quite agree with it. that´s the analogy you´re giving. ofcourse i won´t be thin by just wishing it or thinking ¨thinness¨ all day long. if you believe your children are smart and just sit around thinking they´re smart and hope their grades will automatically improve¨ eventually¨, you will have a big disappointment. you see. true belief drives people to action. true belief get you moving in the direction you´re aiming for. you don´t question it or even doubt it, even if people have tell you otherwise, it doesn´t bother you, much less you don´t even relate to their view. the reason many people fail (including me in a big way ) its that we don´t start small. we´re addicted to instant gratification. trusting or believing should be seen as planting seeds that will gradually become grown up trees that won´t be shaken or pushed by outside forces, like your comments.

    jorge nuñez

  6. Manymeez says:

    The law of attraction is basically the same thing, with a different name as praying. One church I went to, the preacher said that anything you want, you will receive if you pray, believe, and live your life for God. I understand this concept in my heart and soul, I feel it, I grasp it. But on a intellectual level, it troubles me to a degree. I have a hard time grasping that all things in our lives we attract to us. For instance, is the abused child attracting abuse to her life? The point I’m trying to make is that, this book has some very valid points. It can be very empowering to change your mood, your life even by the power of positive thinking. However, you can’t maintain positive thinking if your husband is beating the hell out of you. You can’t change your abusive situation by applying the principle’s in this book, you need to get pro-active and get the hell outta there. I agree that practicing the laws of attraction can work…but only if you balance it out. There can be no take without give, no give without take, or you’re life, the universe, or whatever will become unbalanced. The tree that grows and survives doesn’t just believe and trust it will get, it also gives. It is proactive. It works with nature to survive. It has balance.

  7. SurfaceEarth says:

    Lots of great thoughts here.

    When I asked about the Law of Attraction tipping the scales………I think I was questioning your post above, i.e. if you think purely in terms of The Law of Attraction, are you sidestepping balance, i.e. tipping the scales?

    I think you are both right, it is the action motivated by the principles.

  8. slivermoon22 says:


    It’s my own unwashed opinion that THE SECRET has great power and truth to it, if we are talking about POWER OF MIND. Where things get screwy is in what people DO this power.

    It can be a helpful teaching – in the hands of the right teacher, or it can be a well timed distraction from what is REALLY unfolding in our world, to take our attention away from what is truly important.

    Not everyone is born here to live the human experience. There are angels among us.

    I like your blog. Great writing.


  9. Manymeez says:

    Slivermoon, I would talk to you directly, but I can’t seem to find where you’re orginating from. In your opinion, what do you think the powers of this teaching can be used for? Yes, I agree about the power of the mind, I have experienced it and witnessed it. I just don’t understand how it could be used for what is important in this world. Although my idea of what’s important and yours may differ. You seem to be deeply spiritual without being preachy…you have caught my attention. I am also curious to know what you’re getting at about the angels. Please, elaborate.

    SurfaceEarth, I really enjoy your questions. You really make me think, which gets me motivated to dig deeper. I’m enjoying the dialog.

  10. SurfaceEarth says:

    Thanks for the positive comment!

    I too look forward to hearing more about the “angels”.

  11. SurfaceEarth says:

    Found another blog compliments of tag surfer, I haven’t finished going through the blog, but looks like some interesting viewpoints on finding your own truth, God, spirituality, etc:


    there’s a new link on my blog too, a fellow blogger asked if I would put his link on my blogroll, i checked out the site, at first wasn’t sure what it was about because it is described as the cynic’s view of enlightment, but I started surfing around and seems like some novel thoughts on many things we seem to be talking back and forth about

    You all may want to take a peek if you are looking for more reading material.

    Cheers, look forward to The Secret discussion continuing here at Coffegrounds!

  12. Appache says:

    All i can say is that it works. If you believe you’ll achieve. Oh and yes you have to work for it. The universe will bring you what you ask for but it doesn’t just take fat off your butt or you wake up one morning with a couple of million dollars beside your bed. The universe will bring you the contact or leads so that you can continue your journey to reach your goals. For example you might be introduced to a personal trainer who says to you that he or she would love to help you get fit and as long as you except this offer you’ll get closer to your goal. Or you will meet or be introduced to an idea or people who will help you make that million dollars.

    All i can say is that it works. My partner is everything i asked for, right down to the colour of her hair. Everything in my life now is what i have asked for and i can see somemore things on there way.

    Just understand that if you believe it you’ll achieve it.

    Peace out.

  13. SurfaceEarth says:

    Hey Apache. I like your viewpoint! Exactly what I wanted to read this morning!

  14. Eric says:

    While I’ll admit The Secret is not the be all and end all of personal growth and development, I do think the book and movie have had a profound impact on people becoming more aware of how much control they actually do have in their own lives.

    Of Course there is much more to be explored in the subject of the Law of Attraction in which The Secret just touches the tip of the iceberg on this fascinating subject. Much more personal study needs to done in this area if you really want to take it to the next level. There are other important “Laws” that one should explore.

    I think The Secret provides some great doses of inspiration into what is possible. To many people have studied and written about this Law in the past hundred years for it not to have some merit.

    Reading the book or watching the movie in itself probably won’t change your live, (but I would bet that it probably has happened to many) But reading or watching The Secret is like finding a doorway to a fascinating subject that everyone should explore and look into a little deeper into to find the secrets behind “The Secret.”

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